Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda

I know my last few posts have dealt with following your dreams or taking your passion by the horns and going at it full steam ahead…

This post is no different.

How often do you fall into the shoulda, woulda, coulda category?

Here’s an easy and simple way to think about coulda, shoulda, woulda type of people and how not to fall into that category.

Instead of thinking about the past and things you should have done, could have done and would have done if for example:

  • the circumstances were different
  • you had more money
  • you had more time
  • you had more guts
  • you worked less

etc…

Forget about it. It’s over like a bad movie.

Think about your present life situation and look at things you could do, would do and should do. couldwould.jpg

If you could do something then why aren’t you?
If you should do it then don’t delay any longer, just do it.

It seems to me that the “wouldas” are what we like to use to make excuses for not doing something. And maybe we do experience most of the limiting factors when it comes to the “wouldas?”

For example:

I would have developed the website if I had more money or better development skills.

Here’s the thing about limiting factors that I believe we all do:

The limiting factors are really just excuses of the broader overall picture. We use the “wouldas” as a way to justify our missed shots.

“Wouldas“ can really easily be conquered by breaking the limiting factors into small more measurable tasks and monitoring them carefully.

Skills can be learned.
Money can be saved.
Time can be found (we all have spare time, it’s just a matter of how we use it)

Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda is an excuse and we’re all guilty of it from time to time.

Could & Should is what matters here. Make it happen.