linchpin in training
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18 Jun 2010In the interest of Father’s Day, I wanted to take this opportunity and share something about my father.
When I sat down to write this post, there was one lesson that kept returning to my thoughts.
For as long as I can remember, my father has worked his ass off. I remember while growing up when he’d work the midnight shift, but still be awake the next day to be with the family.
Thirteen years ago, due to a strike and labor dispute, my father was forced to look for a new job. He found one a few hundred miles away. This meant packing up the family and moving away from the place where we’d been born and grew up.
He was our tribe leader. He led us into the unknown and asked us to trust him. It was a pivotal and life changing moment that I’m now extremely grateful to have happened.
I watch my father now and he’s still going. Sometimes I think he’s working harder now then ever before. His career now has him traveling a few times a week and putting in many long hours.
He loves what he does.
He’s one of the lucky ones. But my father has always had a strong entrepreneurial spirit bubbling up inside of him. He has always been cooking up new ideas on the side.
As an example, he told me about the potential of this thing called the “Internet” before most people had any idea what it was. He was building websites and brewing up ideas before I knew anything about the web.
When AOL spammed us with CDs offering “free internet,” he encouraged me to get on the computer and learn what it was all about. “This Internet thing is gonna be big!” he’d say.
After 30 years of watching my father working at his career, you’d think the message he would have taught me was to follow the path of least resistance.
Find a good career, work hard, plug away and aim for retirement, but feel free to dabble on the side.
But rather, my father has always suggested taking the entrepreneurial route.
He’d say things like,
“If you want a big paycheck someday, there’s only one true way of getting it. Make sure you’re writing it for yourself.”
Or,
“If you want a few extra weeks off when you get older, make sure you’re the one writing the schedule.”
The message was always the same. While school and a university education were seen as an extremely important part of the equation, my father always urged us to look at building a career for ourselves instead of allowing someone to build it for us.
It’s no surprise to me that both myself and my brother are now writing our own checks and setting our own vacation time.
As a soon-to-be father, I’ll be passing on a similar message to my kids.
The really cool thing about my dad is, he’s still planning a major ass-kicking even as he creeps closer to his retirement.
He has his fingers on all kinds of cool stuff. I make sure to keep tabs on him so I don’t miss the boat when he starts sailing off.
If you ask my father what his favorite books are, you’d hear titles like “The 4-Hour Work Week,” “Crush It,” and “Linchpin.”
He’s my Linchpin, and still crushing it after all these years.

That’s me on the left in the green. My brother Wes on the right. Dad in the middle.
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View Comments to The Linchpin in My Life
Stu McLaren
June 18th, 2010 at 6:59 pm
Great post Noah… I have a similar relationship with my Dad.
He has always worked like a mad man but never missed a soccer game
High five to all the great Dad's and thanks to you all for encouraging us to blaze our own trails!
Paul
June 18th, 2010 at 7:38 pm
Interesting how your father got you hooked on cutting edge stuff. Great shot.
Noah Fleming
June 18th, 2010 at 8:01 pm
Yeah. Funny, I found an old book from the 80's he had predicting the rise of business on the “Information Superhighway”
Noah Fleming
June 18th, 2010 at 8:01 pm
You got it Stu!
High Five! Thanks man.
Lindsay
June 19th, 2010 at 12:02 pm
Wow – it is very humbling to read this post.My goal as a father was to make sure that you and your brother had all of the opportunities that I never had to excel in anything that you chose to do.
I am thrilled that you and your brother are writing your own paychecks rather than grinding it out for “the man”. Yeah I dabbled in a lot of things but in the end took the easy way out and pursued my corporate career. I am still having a blast but if I had it to do over again I would also be doing my own thing .
With that being said I am the lucky one to have a family that supported and trusted me to do what was right when we made the big move.It was a huge gamble and the sacrifice in leaving your friends and family behind was very significant-but it has paid off for all of us in the long run.
I am very proud to be your father and tribe leader and I know that you will be a great father when little Charlie joins the human race. Next year we will be honouring you on Father's Day.
As far as the ass kicking please stay tuned fellow linchpin and don't change that channel.
Love Dad
p.s. Don't forget that you have a driving lesson today. I am going to teach you a little “Radar Love”.
Charles Phillip Valerio
July 2nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
Your pops has great quotes! But quotes aren't just quotes, they're messages that resonate throughout a lifetime, sometimes even longer when passed down. Props to your dad.
Noah Fleming
July 5th, 2010 at 12:26 am
Thanks for this Charles… Props to my dad!