Noah Fleming
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Is it really “Fear of Failure?”
In: Success
26 Jul 2010The moment you become unafraid of the crowd, you are no longer a sheep, you have become a lion. ~ Osho
Those of us who are in business, thinking about starting a new venture, or just looking to increase our success, often hear something referred to as the “fear of failure.”
Every single success and motivational book you’ll read will talk about the “fear of failure” as one of the, if not the top most debilitating fear, when it comes to stepping outside our comfort zones.
When will we start being honest and start calling it what it really is? Let’s call a spade a spade.
It’s really the “fear that our friends, family, and co-workers will talk about us behind our backs about their opinions of us.” We fear what they will think and say.
The good news is that your friends, family, and co-workers already talk behind your back, but you rarely hear about it. And when they do talk about you, they’re doing so because they are really the ones who are afraid.
They’re afraid because you’ve ventured off the path of easy-street.
They’re afraid because you’ve gone astray and started creating your own map.
They’re afraid because you’ve left the comforts of mediocrity.
They’re more fearful than you will ever be, because they’re scared shitless that you might actually succeed.
And even when you FAIL, and you will, they become even more fearful, and even more resentful, because they see you rise up and try again.
The super-successful understand that failure only makes them stronger.
Once you understand this, what is left for you to really be afraid of?
Venture on.
Even sadder
23 Jul 2010
From Hugh MacLeod of GapingVoid.com and his book Ignore Everybody
Merit can be bought. Passion can’t.
The only people who can change the world are people who want to. And not everybody does.
Human beings have this thing I call the “Pissed Off Gene”. It’s that bit of our psyche that makes us utterly dissatisfied with our lot, no matter how kindly fortune smiles upon us.
It’s there for a reason. Back in our early caveman days, being pissed off made us more likely to get off our butt, get out of the cave and into the tundra hunting wooly mammoth, so we’d have something to eat for supper. It’s a survival mechanism. Damn useful then, damn useful now.
It’s this same Pissed Off Gene that makes us want to create anything in the first place- drawings, violin sonatas, meat packing companies, websites. This same gene drove us to discover how to make a fire, the wheel, the bow and arrow, indoor plumbing, the personal computer, the list is endless.
Part of understanding the creative urge is understanding that it’s primal. Wanting to change the world is not a noble calling, it’s a primal calling.
We think we’re “providing a superior integrated logistic system” or “helping America to really taste freshness”. In fact we’re just pissed off and want to get the hell out of the cave and kill the woolly mammoth.
Your business either lets you go hunt the woolly mammoth or it doesn’t. Of course, like so many white-collar jobs these days, you might very well be offered a ton of money to sit in the corner-office cave and pretend that you’re hunting, even if you’re not, even if you’re just pushing pencils. That is sad. What’s even sadder is that you agreed to take the money.
From Hugh MacLeod of GapingVoid.com and his book Ignore Everybody
P.S. Enjoy the Weekend!
Discipline hurts less
22 Jul 2010Than what?
That thing you’ve been putting off for months now. That new business venture you’ve been talking about. That great idea for an iPhone app you thought about. That exercise program you’ve been thinking about starting. The nutrition plan you were going to stick with. The marketing course you were going to take.
The discipline of starting something now, and sticking with it, can be painful. It’s painful because it requires some sacrifice. No success comes without some sort of sacrifice.
Sacrifice might mean having a salad while everyone else has pizza, or you might have to work Friday and Saturday nights go get that restaurant going. You may even need to sacrifice money and buy less, or live a little more frugally.
All this sacrifice can hurt, but that’s just the beginning. You need to build up self discipline and stick with it to get through the dip.
I know, I know… The pain can be unbearable at times.
I’ve got a feeling though, it will hurt a hell of a lot less than regret.
Bring Matches
21 Jul 2010In my opinion , there are a couple of different ways to inspire people to take action.
First is the “go get-em” way. This is the Tony Robbins style of motivation. “Stand up and say I!” It’s the same ole think positive, set goals, and grow rich type of inspiration.
The problem with this type of inspiration is that it acts a lot like kindling. You never actually put a log on the fire. It looks like it’s going to burn, the fire almost starts, its smoking, and you quickly add more kindling; but before you can add the log, the flame goes out and then we start all over again.
The second type of inspiration comes in the form of real, concrete, “this is how I did it” type of information. This might be a book about the history of Starbucks, or Donald Trump, or Duncan Bannatyne.
The problem with this type of motivation is, while it’s packed with ideas, processes, and steps to follow, it never inspires you to take the leap (or start step one).
The third and final type of motivation has to come from one single source – you.
This is the hardest part of the inspiration puzzle because it’s the hardest piece to find.
In a way, you need a mix of all three to truly get inspired. Method one acts as the kindling. You build up a pretty solid base of confidence and personal development. Method two is equally important as you improve your perspective and gain an understanding from those who went before you. It’s the same as if you soak the kindling with a little bit of gasoline.
Method three is the match.
Without the match, method one and two will only get you so far.
Bring matches.
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