Happiness Now?

Here’s something interesting I recently read about happiness.

About a year after winning the lottery, the person who won the money will come down from all the hoopla and experience, roughly, the same level of happiness they were experiencing before they won the money. One year.

Subsequently, if you were to lose both your legs, you’d be depressed and unhappy, but eventually you’d get your happiness back at your “pre-leg” levels.

I find the whole idea extremely interesting, especially the part about losing one’s legs. We often hear about lottery winners and the extremely wealthy being no happier or better off than non-winners. Maybe, in extreme examples of pain and despair, it could have the same result.

Of course, being blessed and fortunate to have both my arms and legs, I’m not willing to say if this is particularly true. I can’t imagine what that would be like.

But…

Here’s the thing. You’re happiness level here and now, at this very moment, might be the best it’s ever going to get.

The key is, are you allowing yourself to see the beauty in the present moment – not something down the road, or tomorrow, or next year, but now?

Remember when we were kids and we could spend hours not worrying about time, or looking at the clouds, or splashing in the water, or playing with our toys. It’s that sense of contentment we need to get back.

Many of us are trapped on the hamster wheel, chasing something that’s always just around the corner. We never seem to actually get around the corner. Maybe instead of chasing, you could simply stop, get off the hamster wheel, and start seeing things a little differently.

Imagine if this was your peak moment, here and now. Nothing more or less was going to make you any happier then you are now. What would you do differently?

What would you change?

  • B:)

    I agree winning the lottery or having monetary wealth doesn't do a tad bit to increase one's real happiness level. You can buy things, throw them away to just replace them with more things. We've become such a throw away society haven't we? So much waste! What about all the things that money can't buy? Like the love and respect of friends and family, the simple everyday things that we take for granted like the four seasons or a beautiful sunset. A smile from a complete stranger or the sights and sounds of relaxing on a beach somewhere. Appreciating all the things i have in my life (that money can't buy) instead of focusing on the things i don't have lead to my happiness. Back in the day I think that was called “stop and smell the roses” which i believe MAY involve playing MORE GOLF!!

  • http://noahfleming.com/ Noah Fleming

    Thanks so much for the comment! Golf sounds like your thing. Do it, lots. :-)

  • Shawn Veltman

    If you haven’t already, you NEED to read “Stumbling on Happiness.” I’ve done a bit of research in the area of happiness in the form of reading the academic research on it (access to the journal of personality & social psychology is awesome), but that book is far and away the best thing I’ve read on the topic. It reminded me of Cialdini’s classic “Influence, the psychology of persuasion” in that it gives hard research an entertaining spin & makes it easy to understand.

    For any discussion of happiness, that book’s a must read. It’s also got some cool business lessons in it. :)

  • http://noahfleming.com/ Noah Fleming

    Consider it done.

    Thanks for the recommendation Shawn.

  • http://www.RandMediaGroup.com Ryan Evans

    This is a great way to look at happiness. “Imagine if this was your peak moment, here and how.” ..that is a good quote to remember. We often reminisce on certain times in our life that we actually didn’t enjoy when we are going through them. Enjoying the moment isn’t always a natural thing for us to do, but it is so important.

  • http://noahfleming.com/ Noah Fleming

    Hey Ryan

    Thanks so much for commenting. I appreciate it.

    Cheers
    Noah

  • Jason

    Noah, I really like this post. Especially because I just got back from Costa Rica where I re-connected with that child enjoying the moment part of me. And it gave me great perspective on enjoying life. You asked, “what would you change?” and I think allowing yourself to enjoy the moment kind of means letting go of that for some time. Trusting that you’ll move in the right direction is important. If you can instead say “what is great right now” helps facilitate this, for me. Thanks for your leadership.